kau tetap temanku meski sesaat

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sebuah opini 

tiap hari, tiap waktu, akan selalu ada orang yg datang dan pergi di dalam hidup. kadang pergi satu datang seribu, tapi bisa juga datang satu yg pergi seribu.

dengan orang2 yg pada dateng itu terjalin pelbagai hubungan, ada yg cuma sekedar rekan kerja, ada juga yg berakhir jadi temen, temen deket, temen deket banget, bestie, sahabat, gebetan, pacar, kaka adek ketemu gede, ato mungkin sampai jadi pasutri dan sebagainya.

di antara hubungan2 yg terjalin itu, ada yg diharapkan untuk tetap begitu, ga berubah sampai sebisanya. tapi ada juga yg justru diharapkan biar cepat kandas, berakhir, sirna, lalu terlupakan, tsadeesst...

ya begitulah, namanya juga hidup, dinamis, segala sesuatunya pasti bisa berubah, jadi format apapun. kadang bisa diprediksi, tapi juga seringnya engga, banyak kejutan.

soal hubungan yg kita harepin buat tetap begitu, ga berubah. pasti banyak kan, tapi nyadar gasi justru banyak dari hubungan2 ini malah kandas duluan daripada hubungan yg kita harepin cukup sampai di sini aja. ckckckck

ada banyak sebab sii, imo, salah satunya mungkin karna harapan itu cuma ada di satu pihak. pihak lainnya ga berharap yg sama. atau mungkin pihak sebrang ini ga terlalu menganggap penting hubungannya sama kita, bodo amat. jadi bukan kepentingan dia untuk ngejaga hubungannya sama kita ttp langgeng.

pasti sering kan, gatau si apa cuma gua doang, kaya ada orang yg kita anggep temen deket, sahabat, kita suka dan seneng banget bisa temenan sama dia dan dia juga 'sepertiya' bahagia temenan sama kita. but all of a sudden, (s)he treats us like a stranger, makes out like it never happen and then we were nothing, lah malah nyanyi. 

trus pas ngobrol ato ketemu tu jadi super canggung gitu. ya begitulah. 

kalo kata orang, kayanya gua baca di Quora, tapi maap gua lupa nama usernya. ga semua orang tu bisa ngejaga hubungan jangka panjang. sebenernya mungkin dia atau gua sama2 masih ngerasa ada hubungan, ikatan, cuma karna bingung juga mau ngapain, atau mungkin udah terlalu banyak yg berubah, jadi daripada salah kata atau perbuatan mending kita pura2 ga kenal aja. 

tapi memang ga bisa dipungkiri hal kaya gini sering bikin kita ngerasa kehilangan gasi. kaya ada sesuatu yang diambil secara paksa gitu. tapi ya gimana lagi, toh kita juga ga punya alesan yg cukup baik untuk buat dia menetap dalam hubungan ini.

ga ada yang salah, atau boleh jadi kedua belah pihak sama2 andil. jadi yasudah. tapi tapi tapi, gua pengen ngomong sama orang2 yg pernah hadir di hidup gua, jadi temen baik gua, walopun sesaat, sampai di hari gua lupa siapa lo... lo tetep temen gua. 




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