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I’m sure many of us have been told countless times that first impressions matter. When we meet someone for the first time, we tend to be on our best behavior so they won’t get the wrong idea about us—or, ideally, so they’ll see us as a “good person,” especially if that someone is important, like a hiring manager. I agree with this, to an extent, but I think there's a problem with putting so much emphasis on first impressions. Here’s why. The Case of RBF As someone with RBF (Resting "Blank" Face), I’ve noticed that when I meet someone new, especially unintentionally, they often see me as cold, unfriendly, or unapproachable. It might sound exaggerated, but I know I’m not the only one—RBF is common! This makes it hard for people like me to make a “good” impression right off the bat, simply because of how our facial expressions are perceived. The problem is, because so many people believe first impressions reveal a lot about someone, they may think they know us based on that ...

Most people enjoy getting compliments—I mean, who wouldn’t? Feeling acknowledged, praised, and appreciated can give you butterflies. But for some reason, compliments make me feel a little different. Sometimes, they seem more like pressure than praise. Take this example: when people compliment me for looking good, being smart, or doing a great job, a series of questions runs through my mind: Did they really mean it? Were they just being nice? Or, worse, were they mocking me because I’m the opposite of what they said? Even when I confirm that they genuinely meant it, a new fear creeps in: if they think highly of me, does that mean they expect me to always look and perform this way? What if I can’t live up to their expectations? Will they be disappointed? Will they stop being my friends? I know this might sound dramatic, but I can’t be the only one who thinks this way, right? One way I’ve learned to cope with these thoughts is through a piece of advice I once received from a teacher. She ...

I'm sure you've heard of the "my skin but better" trend—a movement that shows you how to achieve a flawless look with minimal products and effort. It encourages you to embrace your natural beauty without over-enhancing your features with too much makeup. Sounds so positive, doesn’t it? But is that really all there is to it? Let’s unfold together the ugly truth behind this trend. In recent years, the beauty industry has seen a surge in popularity for the "my skin but better" trend. This trend promises a natural, effortless look that highlights your skin's best features while downplaying imperfections. While this concept sounds appealing, there’s an ugly truth lurking beneath the surface. Unrealistic Expectations At its core, the "my skin but better" trend promotes the idea that anyone can achieve a flawless, natural appearance. However, the models and influencers showcased in advertising often possess near-perfect skin, which sets an unrealistic...

Every day we see something new, learn something new, and inevitably, those things affect the way we see the world. As we grow, our perspectives shift, and sometimes that change feels overwhelming. This is what we call a paradigm shift—a major change in the way we understand ourselves and the world around us. It can feel confusing, but it’s also a sign that you’re growing. So, how do you navigate these shifts without losing your way? Here are some simple steps to help you through it: 1. Accept the Change Paradigm shifts often mean that things aren’t going according to the plan you had in your head. That’s okay. Change doesn’t mean failure. Instead, it’s a chance to see things from a new perspective. The sooner you accept that things may not go as expected, the easier it will be to embrace the growth that comes with it. 2. Reframe Your Expectations You may feel pressure to meet certain goals or live up to old expectations, but growth sometimes means letting go of those rigid ideas. Ask y...

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Urgensi menghafal Al Qur'an bagi tiap individu mungkin berbeda-beda. dalam islam pun menghafalkannya tidak wajib hukumnya. Tapi, saya yakin bilamana seorang muslim ditanya "inginkah anda menjadi seorang penghafal Al'Quran?" jawabannya tidak mungkin tidak. Salah satu azam yang saya miliki sebelum berangkat studi ke Mesir adalah bisa khatam (hafal) Al Quran sepulangnya ke tanah air. dulu dalam bayangan saya, tidak mungkin seorang Azhari tidak mampu menghafal Al Qur'an. apalagi dengan eksistensi Al Azhar sebagai kiblatnya ilmu pengetahuan. pastilah sarana dan prasarananya sangat mendukung untuk tujuan tersebut. Ekpetasi saya memang tidak meleset, karena memang faktanya Al Azhar telah menyediakan fasilitas sedemikian rupa untuk menghafal Al Qur'an. tak hanya itu, selain Al Azhar juga masih banyak lembaga2 maupun komunitas mahasiswa indonesia yang dibentuk sebagai sarana untuk menghafal Al Qur'an. seperti PTQI, maquro, dar al wasila, RTM dan masih banyak l...

Mungkin kalo dihitung sampai hari ini udah hampir seminggu kali ya gua ga buka instagram. awalnya gua masih harus ngunci aplikasi biar ga tergoda buat ngebuka tu satu medsos, sampe akhirnya sekarang kaya emang lagi ga pengen aja gitu. sebenernya gua itu bisa dikategorikan sebagai pengguna medsos yang sangat pasif si. gak pernah posting feed, posting story paling seminggu ato bahkan sebulan sekali. karna ya, selalu mikirnya buat apa sih.  tapi gua adalah pengguna pasif yg sangat aktif, gua sering baget buka ig, liat postingan orang, nonton reels, mantengin story temen2. awalnya ngerasanya gada beban gitu, karna ya buat gue ig tuh pure buat kebutuhan hiburan aja gitu, terbukti dari explore gua yg isinya kebanyakan meme, sama challenge joget xixi.  cuma, entah sejak kapan gua jadi lebih sering mantegin beranda gua yg kebanyakan isinya akun2 masa depan. maksudnya yg kaya ngebahas pendidikan, karir, sukses dan sebagainya.  sejak itu gua jadi suka kepikiran gitu setiap nemuin o...